I got back to my Injaz class today after an absence of two weeks (I still have a lot to share about the trip to Turkey, very soon, I promise!)
In the last session, we had an exercise about goals, where I got magazines, glue, and scissors, and each girl had to divide a big sheet of paper into two parts; how she sees herself now, and how she sees herself in 15 years, and then fill each section with clippings representing different aspects of it.
It was very interesting to observe them busily cutting and pasting clippings, and writing lines that reflect where they are and where they’d like to be. My initial observations were somewhat disappointing, as many of them just filled the sheet with images of couples, children, a nice home, a fancy car, and a cell phone… stuff like that, along with something along the lines of “I want to have a good job”.
“What type of job? What would you like to be doing? What is it you dream of becoming?” I asked.
Most of them seemed to have no idea. One person said “a job in a company”, and I was like “yes, but doing what?” and she just shrugged her shoulders.
There were even two or three girls who didn’t paste a single thing saying they don’t have any idea.
I just wanted to exclaim; you’re still 13 for goodness’ sake!! Dream! You’re too young to be too realistic!!! What happened to wanting to be a pilot, an astronaut, or a fashion designer? What happened to wanting to travel the world, cure cancer, or work with the Interpol?
I’m not asking those girls to know exactly what they want in life; I’m just saying that it’s extremely dangerous if kids do not dream “unrealistic” dreams. At a certain age later on, they’d be hit by a reality check, and most of them would accept that they won’t become actresses, fire fighters, or nuclear scientists. But then there are a few who actually break the norms and go after what they want.
Today’s session was somewhat more refreshing, because as we resumed the talk about what obstacles stand in the face of their goals and how they can overcome them, they started stepping forward and sharing things like wanting to be an air hostess, a football player, and a business woman running offices in different countries.
What was very interesting is that alongside all the images, you’d find something like an eagle, a bird, a cloud, the sky… and when you ask them about those pictures they say “I want to be free.” I heard it from the majority… about how in 15 years they want to be independent and free in making their choices and decisions and living their life the way they want.
Mostly, I don’t comment on such things. I just try to get them to start thinking more. I was just trying to make one point, which is that they should ponder what obstacles prevent them from realizing their dreams, and what steps they should take to address that. The whole point is for them not to end up studying something they hate, settling for a job they don’t enjoy, and then just dragging along life feeling eternally bored. We really need more people who are passionate about what they do!
So far I haven’t been chased after by their parents or teachers! Although I suspect I might
One of my greatest joys is the fact that most of them are quite into the reading program we started. Over the course of the past month I got them around 40 books, ranging from Agatha Christie to Taha Hussein, from CS Lewis to Naguib Mahfouz, and from Charles Dickens to Ghassan Kanafani and Abdul Rahman Muneef… at first I was pretty cautious with the books I got, but then when I went and sought the recommendations of Abu Ali, he gave me his look of disapproval for my underestimation of 13-year-olds. I ended up trusting him and buying a whole bunch (not only is he an avid reader and a great intellectual, but a very good salesman I must admit
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There’s a group of girls who have been reading one book after the other, and who have completed around 5 books since we started. There are others who are slower, and of course there are those who are just not interested. I was so happy today when I found out that three of the most annoying girls in class have been gathering during their break, and taking turns reading out loud together. They were very enthusiastic about the book they finished together. It just made my day.
To encourage them as promised, I went looking for small presents that I can give to the most active readers. I landed upon one of those places downtown that sell imitations of well-known perfumes, mixed manually from the essence along with God knows what. Now seriously, their stuff smell just like the real thing, and last long enough without the scent changing or anything – “J’Adore”, “Kenzo”, “Davidoff”… you name it. It was quite fun observing the guy working at it with the injection needle and different liquids and chemicals.


I’ll try to be more creative with the motivation gifts next time. This is such a tricky age and they are so hard to please. Again, any suggestions are more than welcome.
I guess I’ll wrap it up for now. I wanted to start venting about some of what I’ve been seeing from their teachers, but I’ll leave that to another post.